The Pain of Being Right

The Pain of Being Right

We are social creatures: our survival depends upon the reliability of our partners. Unfortunately, “reliability” is a contingent quality. Every display of support for us is an advertisement. Some onlookers might offer a greater reward, others might seize by force....
Designed to Love

Designed to Love

One of the keys to mental healing is the belief that experience has meaning. From my book, “The Foundations and Practice of Lay Hypnotherapy,” I offer this insight: We hurt and then heal each other because we are still learning how to express our capacity...
Behavior and Adaptation

Behavior and Adaptation

Life is change. For most of history, change was transmitted only through birth. Looking at the natural world, then, Darwin and his followers upheld the survival of our genes as the compulsion that drives our every behavior. In the mental health world, Freud also...